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There is a term that comes from Mexico that defines that sort of aloof look on life called “La vacilada”. Which is could be seen as a sort of “coping mechanism” for Mexicans due how completely fucked up our history is.

This is a culture where we’d joke about shit that people typically mourn about. (After an Earthquake that destroyed a large portion of Mexico City in 1985, Ronald and Nancy Reagan came to pay their respects to the Mexican President and his wife; when the Reagan’s first came to the President’s residence the first lady opened the door and said “I’m sorry about the mess.”)

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The point of La Vacilada is to not worry about shit that you can’t control. Be aware, but not preoccupied of what is happening around you. Since I am on crutches, I’ve grown up being paranoid of getting hurt, not wanting to over exert myself, and basically holding myself back. In the past few years, I’ve made myself commit to a positive change in my life.

I no longer look at my disability as a negative, simply a fact of life. I just returned from living in Mexico City for five months, and during this time I realized a few things about myself that The Lifestyle and it’s readers would dig:

1. Walking everywhere meant that whatever I wanted to do, I had to work for it, no more half ass-ing my shit. If I went to a party or a bar, that’d mean one consistent thing, I’d have to walk up a few flights of stairs to get in. Meaning anywhere I’d travel to it was on me, and only me to get there. I slowly stopped relying on other people, which has helped me in not only talking to girls but people in general; if I’m interested in a girl I’ll take the initiative in talking to her.

2. When you are on crutches, people tend to be more stand offish, just because they either feel uncomfortable around the canes, or they don’t know how stable I am. This is where “La Vacilda” has always helped me in meeting people (I’ve started played a drinking game, where the objective is where each person has a shot, and they need to make up a crazy story as to why I can’t walk, the person with the best story doesn’t take their shot.) the only thing that would hold me back in the past from talking to girls, was that I thought they wouldn’t want to talk to me because I couldn’t walk. Then I realized something, if someone didn’t want to get to know me due to my disability, why would I want to associate with them in the first place.

3. Mexico has never been handicap friendly, which made my folks worry that I’d not get around easily, but I just saw it as a chance for me to see how far I could really push myself. How strong could I become when I was isolated without help; slowly my blistered hands became calluses, I started moving faster, standing taller with a smaller gate, and best of all I could do more without tiring. It jump-started my body; I was no longer living a life of where my fear of failure was overcome by my desire to explore the world around me.

I’ve returned from my homeland stronger than when I left, I no longer waiver when I’m faced with a challenge, I just laugh to myself and get it done.