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Become a Social Chameleon

Long before I had discovered a dating game, in a time when I was still very much a social retard… I just wanted to fit in. I had no problem when it came to other nerdy types, in fact I was probably more of a king of nerds than anything else. It was easy for me to be the top “beta” in the group, if there were such a thing. More than fitting in, I wanted friends to hang out with. Guys who I could chill and drink with. Guys who might introduce me to girls and new friends. Guys with game.

During my Junior year, I finally befriended one of the top alphas in my school by pure luck. I was going through a transitional phase and had already gotten lucky with a couple of girls. My new friend was a serious meathead in my major and we shared a few classes together.

As luck would have it, we were assigned to the same group projects in multiple classes over the next two semesters. He had no problem with women, including half the bartenders in town (he almost passed one off to me before getting back with her). This intrigued me because he wasn’t exceptionally attractive either with his freckled face and crew cut red hair.

In fact, he resembled more of a cross between a professional linebacker and a frat boy alcoholic than a ladies man. It amazed me that he could pass for either group in any setting, when in fact he could be putting on two faces within the same room.

As I tried to mesh into different social groups in college, I learned to become a social chameleon by emulating other people using his methods. I learned to talk the way different groups of people talked, figured out their respective interests, and fine tuned it to my own needs.

After a while, it just kind of stuck. Now, I can blend in and mesh into any crowd (latino, black, asian, rocker, country, sports fans, meatheads, nerds, etc.). It’s a huge boost to your game if you can pull it off regularly in any situation. The only problem is sometimes you need to dress the part beforehand unless you have already have a cool universal look going for you.

I’m not telling you not to be yourself (on the contrary). Rather, take the time to study and understand the many different cliques of people in the world, and it will improve your game by leaps and bounds. Instead of only being able to spit game at nerdy girls or sorority chicks, now you’ll be able to mingle with Milf lawyers at cocktail parties as well as the freaky Gothic chick with the purple hair and twenty piercings… should that tickle your pickle.

Step One:

Get outside your social comfort zone. Seek out groups of people you’d never considered to befriend before.

Step Two:

Get out into the field and study the interactions between other members of these groups. Learn to mimic and emulate them. Find out what makes them tick.

Step Three:

Repeat Step Two until you’ve infiltrated half a dozen new, unique circles by using what you’ve learned. Not only should have have made quite a few new friends, you should also be able to easily identify with anyone you meet.

If not, start over at Step One until you can fit in anytime, anywhere, with any mix of people.

Step Four:

Congratulations, you have become a social chameleon.